My Feudal Lord
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Tehmina’s spirit, her interest in politics for the improvement of Pakistan, and her children were the only things which gave her strength to face Mustafa like a Spartan. My Feudal Lord”, is a brave attempt on part of Tehmina Durrani to break free from our societies double standards towards women.
This very basic logic, that once you’ve suffered through something, you must be able to empathize better with those who are oppressed by the same rules, unfortunately doesn’t translate into real life. And for most of this story, it is misogyny we must encounter, in the characters as well as in ourselves: Tehmina’s adultery, Mustafa’s horrible behavior towards his pregnant wife; Mustafa’s mental and physical torture of Tahmina; his affairs with Tehmina’s sister and her own reactions to it, blaming the sister but not her husband; her parent’s divorce; the treatment of Mustafa and Tehmina’s children, poor souls caught up in a family drama being played out in front of newspaper reporters and the world. I give it two stars purely on the basis of Durrani living and surviving an interesting, yet deeply tragic life, and having the courage to speak out as she has. Somewhere along this decision I feel it was because Tehmina saw her mother in Mustafa Khar and by him accepting her; she felt her mother was accepting her.
If Mother did not approve of me and love me, Anees’s weak opinion – and those of his lower-positioned family – was of little consequence.
She wanted to be the part of high society attention of the most powerful man of Punjab and did everything for it. The author’s mother, who plays a huge part in how Tehmina turns out, was cold and distant and mostly responsible for inculcating really low self-esteem in the children she deemed unworthy of her approval. The blurb proclaims that the book is a "devastating indictment of women's role in Muslim society" and that it is a "sensational European bestseller". She also gave two interviews as PR stunts, to project a vicarious goodness-by-association with Pakistani legendary philanthropist Edhi sahib, and to forward her husband's credentials for premiership.I was not a bit shocked by the political manoeuvres or the illegal relationships or discriminating your own children based on their looks or even the treatment of women as sex tools. You don’t feel sympathy with the author instead you make strong judgements about the character and mental state of the author. In 1994, A Mirror to the Blind, Edhi's official ‘narrated’ autobiography, was endorsed and published by the Edhi Foundation. He is a Barbarian who tries to mingle among the elites of society but always stands out because of his feudal heritage and rural upbringing. This book was Tehmina's way to relieve the guilt and it was written in a way to show the world mustufa's cruelty, for instance she started wearing white clothes out of her own choice, on discussing this with mustufa he gave no response and she put it as, he wanted me to appear unattractive to men.